Ooookay people…given my very low boredom threshold you could be forgiven for thinking that my silence here of late, might indicate that this website malarkey had become the latest casualty of my errant concentration, and my tendency to spend inordinate periods of time in shoe shops. In fact I was handed an unexpected five week sabbatical, when my intended (above) was signed off work due to ill health, and I had to park my sparkly heels in favour of the flatter more functional footwear more closely associated with that of a nurse, 24 hour head cook and bottle washer.
Thankfully my future husband is, I am glad to say fully restored in terms of his health, and I am free to revive my fledgling efforts to bring my muses to the masses, or at least all seventeen of you at the last count!
So what, if anything did I learn during the time I was holed up 24/7 with the man I am about to marry five years after I became a widow. Well we have both discovered a penchant for TV binge watching, but think more Four In A Bed than Game Of Thrones, and Sky News has provided confirmation absolute, that our politicians, whose recent behaviours concerning brexit, proves they are not fit to lace the boots of the generation who fought and died to preserve the freedoms they seek to manipulate in their own self interests all these years later.
I have also learned that when I am happy I eat, and given that I have been laughing a lot over the last few weeks, this equates to the consumption of a serious amount of calories, which when squared to the power of whatever, results in a waistline that is threatening to extend beyond the largest of my emergency wedding dress selection. Add to this the fact that they are all currently in China, which according to the reviews I have been reading may well still be the case until after the wedding, is causing me some concern as the date of our September nuptials lurches ever nearer towards us.
I think that I might have gleaned a better insight as to what the phrase ‘living in the moment’ means now though. When we learned that Kenny’s diagnosis was terminal, I was often told to do this, but could not grasp the concept of appreciating each moment on its merits, because I was so consumed by a fear of the future.
As those of you who know me will attest, I can’t even follow a recipe without significant adaptations, and if I could ski, which for the record I can’t, would most likely be found off piste than on it…maybe that last one needs a rethink, and it’s not really normal to fly to Florida from the UK via Texas really is it? All of that said I am a big fan of some ‘shape’ even if it’s a bit fluid, but my writing schedule became nothing more than an unrecognisable blob over the last few weeks, which I found frustrating more than anything else.
Thankfully this time the health issues which had brought about our brief respite from real life were not serious. and I began to embrace the freedom that living outside the demands of the clock can bring. We talked for hours and hours on end, well at least when we weren’t binge watching Four In A Bed, and engaged in conversations which may never had happened during the course of our more regular routines, but now that they were, offered us both new insights into the hopes, thoughts and aspirations of the other.
I know now for instance, that I am not the only serial shopper in the family, and having looked down the barrel of bankruptcy, was able to refer us both to the services of the CIA, which is something that those of you who are members of GOWNS @ gownsgroup.co.uk will all know stands for cash incontinent’s anonymous. I think we will be fine.
Today I am back in my office trying to re-learn all that I have forgotten during my break from the vagaries of technology, and my language is once again peppered by more Anglo Saxon than is normal for a middle aged grandmother of two, but I gained so much more than I lost over the last five weeks. I may well be destined to be a fat bride, unless I wrap myself in clingfilm and go to live in our local sauna until September, but frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn! If I can’t be svelte, bingo wing free and looking ten years younger on my wedding day, then I’ll just have to be satisfied with being loved, in love and happier then I dared to think possible, what’s not to like eh?
14 thoughts on “When life has other plans”
You will look lovely whatever. Very glad your intended has made a good recovery. xx
Thank you Cathy…he has indeed which of course is all that is important after all xxxxx
Widowhood gives us a whole new perspective about valuing time and “seizing the day,” just grab each second of happiness you’re given and with or without an extra pound or two, have a wonderful wedding day!! x
Wise words indeed Sue from someone who knows, and thank you for your good wishes much appreciated xxxxx
Good to have you back …I’ve missed you! Great to read the patient is now back to health and that you had ‘time’ to talk…. it’s amazing how ‘normal’ life doesn’t allow for such conversations, even when we think it does. As for your attempt to look different on your big day…. well, there’s only one thing I can say to that….. why? Be as you’ve always been…. bold, beautiful, funny and ready for action!
Ha ha thanks for your comments Jayne…still seriously thinking about the shrink wrap though!! xxxxx
So glad your fiancè has recovered. I’m a great believer in Sue Sara Sera, and believe this time together was meant to be. Have you two the chance to really bond.
You will look fabulous on your wedding day Sandra, no matter what your size, because you will be so happy and that will overide anything else.
So look forward to your another special day knowing that Kenny is beaming with pride, knowing he will be sharing his lovely lady with another who loves her very much. Xxxx
Thank you Colette…we certainly had an amazing few weeks despite a couple of health niggles, and like you I am not a fan of the coincidence explanation either. I am a very lucky lady indeed xxxxx
So glad Your Fiancé is on the mend, I know it’s good to loose few pounds but being Happy is the main thing. xx
Thank you Ingrid…you are absolutely right of course xxxxxx
I’m really glad your future husband is better. I would order the dress pretty soon if you intend to order from China. Speaking from personal experience it’s never quick!! Good luck. X
Thank you Savana…message received loud and clear!! xxxxx
Love your writing style Sandra .. reality and humour coming from a gracious humble heart .
Thank you for your lovely comments Jacqui…they are much appreciated xxxxx